Twenty five years ago on June 12th I married my best friend. We got engaged in August 1992 and decided on a June wedding that happened June 12th, 1993. I had so much fun planning my wedding with the help from my family and friends. It was a long time coming, we dated for 5 years off and on. We endured a couple of hard break ups and one of them was for a substantial amount of time. My heart was broke a couple of times while we dated. When we finally worked everything out and we were engaged, I was so happy. I felt so lucky to be marrying my best friend. We were looking forward and excited for our future together. I was truly blessed to have found Kirk. He made my heart sing.
Twenty five years ago I would have never imagined that I would be marking our sliver anniversary without him. I treasure the memories from the time we got engaged to the very last dance before the end of our reception. Our wedding and reception was so much fun and I think everyone had a great time. Precious moments that is engraved on my heart that I will take with me when it’s my time to leave this world.
On the front of Kirk’s headstone I had engraved: “I thank my God upon every remembrance of you.” Philippians 1:3 NIV. God truly blessed me when he brought Kirk into my life. Together we were blessed to have our daughter Emily. Every day when I wake up one of my first thoughts is that it’s another day without Kirk. But I remind myself how beyond blessed I am to have found someone to love me as much as I loved them.
My advice to those of you that are married is to cherish each and every day you have together. Each anniversary, treasure that day and remember the reason why you walked down the aisle as single people and moments later you left as one. For the ones of you that are single, take your time and find that special someone that makes you laugh and brings out the best in you. And when they bring out the worst, sit and communicate. Always leave the lines of communication open. We do not know the number of days each of us have. And just like our story, your story can end without notice. So please share, love, celebrate, and enjoy each other. Life is far too short to make others miserable. John 13:34 NIV states, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” God is love and we must love each other and show patience and compassion.
The past 25 years seem like a lifetime ago, but sometimes feels like yesterday. I cherish each and every second of our wedding day and the festivities that lead up to our special moment. I miss Kirk and this journey has been rough with twists and turns that come with widowhood. But I know God is with me and will be with me as I turn to new chapters of my life. Our lives are seasons that are threaded together. Ecclesiastes 3:1 NIV says, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:” In 3:4 it states,”a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” Seasons of our life can be hard to endure, but God promises that even though we will have hard times, there will also be times of joy and celebration. We just have to hold on to God, and have faith and trust that He will lift us out of our dark hours and set us on our path of light.
Lord, thank you so much for joining Kirk and me for 18 years of marriage. Thank you for blessing me with him and then ultimately blessing us with Emily. Through you Lord we found happiness and joy. You seen us through some rough times but the joy far outweighs the bad. You are a good good Father!! In Your Precious Name I pray Amen!!
Angela Key was born in Indianapolis and was raised in Mooresville. There she graduated from Mooresville High School and after secondary school and marriage, her and her late husband Kirk stayed in the area to raise their daughter Emily. In June of 2011, they tragically lost Kirk in an accident at his workplace. As time has passed, Angela began to take classes through Indiana Wesleyan for Biblical Studies and also took a class for Biblical Counseling through Rod and Staff Ministries. She always had a desire to help other women who find themselves in a similar situation being a widow and being left as the only caregiver. Angela experienced that through the love of Jesus and leaning on Him for strength, she could find a new normal and be able to reach back to help other women on their widow journey. She works full time as a Certified Professional Coder for Community Physician’s Network. In her spare time, she likes to read and enjoys watching Emily play travel and high school soccer.