Living in Community With Women – Part 3: One Another Principles

Written by: Ruth Meed

Now that we have discussed our foundation of loving one another, and what we should NOT do, how do we truly live in community with other women?

There are twenty ways the New Testament shares that we can work with each other as believers that show us how to support, provide hope, and encourage each other.


  1. Comfort one another.

This word means to call near, to come alongside.

This is practical hands-on, reaching out to be there for someone. To give someone words that let them know you are there supporting and encouraging them in their walk in the Lord.

Romans 1:12, That is, that I may be encouraged together with you while among you, each of us by the other’s faith, both yours and mine.

Other scriptures for reference; 1 Thessalonians 4:18 and 1 Thessalonians 5:11


  1. Edify one another

Along with comfort, we are to edify each other. This word has the idea of building up or building into others. This usually happens when we share the Word of God carefully in the hearts of those we want to encourage.  Sometimes a simple verse like, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13),  can help a person gain the strength to take the next step.

1 Thessalonians 5:11, Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing.

Other scripture for reference; Romans 14:19


  1. Members of one another

The picture here is that of parts of a physical body.  You would not leave your hand behind when you went somewhere. You would not intentionally cut off your foot. So we need to be mindful of not wounding each other or we cripple part of the body of Christ.

Romans 12:5, So we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.

Other scriptures for reference; Ephesians 4:25


  1. Care for one another

The word “care” here means to be intense about another. It’s the idea of being attached emotionally to someone to the point where when they hurt, you hurt. What bothers them bothers you.

1 Corinthians 12:25, so that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another.


  1. Be Kindly affectioned

This means cherishing, being fond of and friendly like we are family.

Romans 12:10, Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor


  1. Same mind

The “same mind” means one opinion or thinking the same things.  This carries the idea that we are not to think we are any better, more educated, more right, about things than others, but to be able to believe or agree on the foundations of our faith.

Romans 15:5, Now may the God who gives perseverance, and encouragement grant you to agree with one another according to Christ Jesus,

Other scripture for reference; Romans 12:16


  1. Receive one another

This means to offer a gesture of kindness to allow someone to be your friend.

Romans 15:7,  Therefore, accept one another, just as Christ also received us to the glory of God.


  1. Admonish

Here we are to keep in mind to gently urge or warn another sister in Christ of something we may see in their life as well as accept that from them.

Colossians 3:16, Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God.

Other scripture for reference; Romans 15:14b


  1. Salute, Greet, Kiss

The two words “salute and greet” mean the same thing in Greek: “to enfold in the arms.” We use modern terms of embrace or hug. When we think of kiss in this context, consider the middle eastern custom of kissing both cheeks as a demonstration of friendship and affection.

Romans 16:16, Greet one another with a holy kiss. All the churches of Christ greet you.

Other scriptures for reference; 1 Corinthians 16:20, 2 Corinthians 13:12, and 1 Peter 5:14


  1. Tarry for

This means to look out for, to wait expectantly for, to anticipate the needs of someone else.

1 Corinthians 11:33, So then, my brethren, when you come together to eat, wait for one another.


  1. Serve one another

To serve means to be a slave. But we need to pay attention to the context in this case because this is not being a slave of just anyone. This phrase excludes serving people who are mean spirited and troubled, but fellow believers who are sharing and needing help are to be served in this way.

Galatians 5:13, For you were called to freedom, brethren; only do not turn your freedom into an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.


  1. Bear burdens

Bearing means to lift, to carry, to take up. We are to take responsibility for the difficulties others are experiencing.

Galatians 6:2, Bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ.


  1. Forbear

Forbearing is to endure, to put up with, or suffer from another.

Colossians 3:13, Bear one another burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ.

Other scriptures for reference; Ephesians 4:2


  1. Forgive

To forgive is to grant as a favor or pardon. We are giving someone what they don’t deserve when they harm us in some fashion.

Ephesians 4:32, Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.

Other scriptures for reference; Colossians 3:13


  1. Submit

This means to arrange yourself in an orderly way under another for unity. If another woman is leading, let them lead and carry yourself under that leadership.

Ephesians 5:21, and be subject to one another in fear of Christ.

Other scriptures for reference; 1 Peter 5:5


  1. Esteem

To esteem is to consider, to count as, and to place in a leadership role in your mind.

Philippians 2:3, Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;


  1. Consider and provoke

Consider means to observe fully. In other words, to make it a point to get to know other people. Provoke means to incite or encourage.

Hebrews 10:24, and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds.


  1. Confess faults to and pray for

Confess means to acknowledge by agreeing. To pray means to express our wishes to God- in this case on behalf of another.

James 5:16, Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.


  1. Hospitable

To be friendly or fond of having guests.

1 Peter 4:9, Be hospitable to one another without complaint.


  1. Fellowship

This word means a partnership, beneficial communion. When we are submitting to the Holy Spirits work in our lives which enable us to practice all the preceding “one anothers,” then having a deep, fruitful, intimate relationship with each other becomes a natural part of our lives.

1 John 1:7, but if we walk in the Light as He is in the Light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin.

In these articles, we have focused on the idea of what it means to be there for “one another” according to what the Bible teaches.  As you read you learned many valuable lessons of things, God’s Word teaches that we should not do, but also things we are told to do to maintain healthy relationships with each other and to grow in knowing who Christ is and how He lived. This naturally creates community as we allow the Bible to teach us how to care for and live unselfishly for the sake of others. We reach out to “one another” in these ways so that we can accomplish the goal of developing a community that will be for our excellence and God’s glory.

Living in Community With Women – Part 2: Do Not

Written by: Ruth Meed

In our previous article, we discussed the foundation for authentic community, loving one another and why we ought to love one another. To apply this practically, we need to understand what we should NOT do to “one another” as well.

  1. Do Not Judge

Romans 14:13, Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather determine this—not to put an obstacle or a stumbling block in a brother’s way.

James 4:11 Do not speak against one another, brethren. He who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks against the law and judges the law; but if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge of it.

The word “judge” in these verses means to distinguish as different or condemn. While we must use righteous judgment in our interactions, we are not to be condemning of others. That is God’s job.

  1. Grudge not

James 5:9, Do not complain, brethren, against one another, so that you yourselves may not be judged; behold, the Judge is standing right at the door.

This means to stand against or confine. The idea of being held at gunpoint comes to mind here. It is constraining someone in an unfair or unrighteous way.

  1. Lie not

Colossians 3:9, Do not lie to one another, since you laid aside the old self with its evil practices

1 Thessalonians 5:15  See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is suitable for one another and all people.

This is a simple principle: don’t ever tell a lie for any reason to a sister in Christ.

  1. Don’t defraud

1 Thessalonians 4:6, and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you.

1 Corinthians 7:5 Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Defraud means to be jealous, take advantage of or take something wrongfully.

  1. Don’t bite and devour or consume

Galatians 5:15,  But if you bite and devour one another, take care that you are not consumed by one another.

This means, “biting down, using up or destroying.” Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt your soul was eaten away by the nasty things that were said to you or about you? That’s what this verse is referring to. We are not to be the one who does this to someone else.

  1.   Don’t provoke or envy.

Galatians 5:26, Let us not become boastful, challenging one another, envying one another.

When we think about not provoking others, we are thinking about not saying things or doing things that we know will entice them to frustration. The goal is to not intentionally think of ways or say things to make others angry or feel inferior or belittled.

Living in Community With Women – Part 1: Love One Another

Written by: Ruth Meed

A friend of mine inspired me to think about the topic of living in community with other women. What makes community vital? How does your church encourage its members to reach out and fellowship with others outside of their small friend-group? How do we do this effectively so that Gods glory takes precedent, and believers become built up and encouraged?

Before we begin discussing the answers to these questions, we have to make a few keynotes. While this is beneficial for us, living in community with women glorifies God. It glorifies God by reflecting His character, and as we are in community with women, we see characteristics of God. Another note we have to make, we need to develop an understanding that we should love one another as well as the reasons for doing so. In parts two and three of this article, we will discuss how we love one another. For now, let’s look at why we should love one another. 1 Corinthians 13:2, And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.

A) It’s a commandment

John 13:34-35, A new commandment I give to you that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this, all men will know that you are My disciples if you have a love for one another.

B) It’s something we owe each other

Romans 13:8, Owe nothing to anyone except to love one another; for he who loves his neighbor has fulfilled the law.

C) It’s what we are taught by God to do

1 Thessalonians 4:9, Now as to the love of the brethren, you do not need for anyone to write to you, for you yourselves are taught by God to love one another

D) It grows as we nurture it

1 Thessalonians 3:12, and may the Lord cause you to increase and abound in love for one another, and for all people, just as we also do for you

E) It’s developed and purified as we obey God by intentionally, genuinely loving each other.

1 Peter 1:22 who is at the right hand of God, having gone into heaven, after angels and authorities and powers had been subjected to Him.

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