The grief due dates bring – miscarriage.

This past Thursday I shared a little bit of my heart on my Instagram concerning my baby’s due date quickly approaching. The first time I had a miscarriage I thought, “Once the due date rolls around I’ll be doing better.” For some reason, I thought that by then I would have dealt with my emotions. However, the months went by and the pain didn’t really go away; the pain was as loud and intense as it had ever been. Here’s the thing: Grief comes in waves, therefore when that due date comes, so does a big wave of emotions and grief. If I am completely honest, there is no way to avoid it.

As I’ve shared before, I’ve had two miscarriages. Both of my angel baby’s, due dates, are just a couple months apart, so you can imagine that the grief sticks around for quite some time. Although over the years I’ve learned better ways to deal with it, it doesn’t mean that it won’t come. The desire to hold my babies in my arms is still very real every single day. I long for that, and I know that will never go away.

“Today we would have been 20 days away from meeting our baby. July has a lot of emotions tangled up in there — I know that this month we would have been able to hold our baby in our arms.

But here’s the thing that I’ve learned this year. God is with us through all of those emotions. Even in the hardest times, we’ve learned to rejoice. When times our joyful we have been able to enjoy our time and still smile and find joy in the mundane.

I’ve spoken a lot about miscarriages, and one of the reasons why is because until you haven’t experienced the pain, you don’t know what it’s like. Miscarriage isn’t just something that disappears after you have one, it’s something that stays with you for the rest of your life. You count every due date, every birthday, every heartbeat.

Today, I’m grateful for everything this baby taught me. You taught me to love and cherish my days even more. July 21st should have been one of the happiest days of our lives, and now it’ll look a little different. We rejoice that our baby is dwelling in the presence of God, and we long for the day we’ll get to hold you. I’m grateful for the memories I hold and for the love, I was able to experience through my angel baby.”

I really want to encourage all those mommas out there that are currently experiencing this grief. Whether your angel baby’s due date is soon or still a few months away, I want to tell you that I’m here for you. When you first get pregnant, the first thing you typically calculate is the due date because it is supposed to be the day your life changes; the happiest day of your life. But what I’ve learned is that the day my life actually changed was when I saw those two little pink lines. Why you might ask? Because this is the day I gave my all to this baby, I waited patiently for that due date, and when it didn’t happen, my life had already changed. The pain that we have to endure as mothers is heartbreaking. Please, know that you are not alone.

I patiently wait for the day I will get to hold my babies, however, I am so grateful to have the hope of knowing they are with there Savior. There are many things I’ve learned throughout these last few years, and one thing has been that if God is taking care of me, how would He not do the same for my babies? Remember that this day can be full of sorrow, but also know that God will one day wipe those tears away. I won’t get to meet my babies on this side of eternity, but man I cannot wait to meet them in the presence of God.

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters. He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever.
Psalms 23:1-4, 6 ESV



Bianca Ritter

Hear My Cries

“Hear my cry, O God; listen to my prayer. From the ends of the earth, I call to you; I call as my heart grows faint; lead me to the rock that is higher than I.” Psalm 61:1-2 
  My anguished wails carried to the far corners of our home, my keening erupting from my horror’s depths, reaching my husband two floors away. He ran, shaken and afraid, to that unfamiliar sound, finding me curled up sitting on the toilet’s lid. Uncontrollable tears streamed from my eyes as he held me, seeking to comfort me. I burrowed into his chest, seeking out relief. I could not be comforted. I longed to reach into the darkness and yank sweet Aaron out of the Grim Reaper’s clutches. But he was gone.
I had just received the news that Aaron, my stepson of over 17 years, had taken his own life the night before. He slit his arteries all over his body after putting a bag over his head, ultimately dying of suffocation. He was gone. Too late to ask, “Why?” Too late to beg him not to. Too late to hold him safe on this side of the veil. Too late.
As I write, I am cutting open a vein, bleeding, and sharing the torment of losing an adult child to suicide. I cannot share the heartache without entering back into it. And it hurts. The agony still lingers—so many unanswered questions. Time seems to stand still even though the wind blows, and the birds sing. Memories of his life remain all over our home like shadows left behind from a long-forgotten light. Little art projects hanging on the refrigerator from decades ago. Every picture frame and a hand-drawn picture. Sweet and precious memories.
There is an ache that attends his absence. I miss him. However, the agony of my moment was not sorrowing for where he wasn’t but fear for where he might be. Could he have foolishly tried to escape his guilt by adding to it? Could he have sought release from his agony, only to enter a deeper and inescapable one?
My husband reminded me of the hope that restrains our mourning. Over the years, I had spoken to Aaron of Jesus, His perfect life, His atoning death, and His victory over the tomb. Aaron had, as a child, confessed his sins and his dependence on God’s grace in Jesus. He had been such a gentle and sweet-tempered child. His conscience was tender. Was the Spirit at work in him all those years?
Had he forgotten? Had that word fallen on rocky soil and sprung up quickly only to be extinguished by the things of this world? Could it be, like the thief on the cross, as his last breath escaped his body that he remembered, that in his dying despair, he turned again to the One who put death to death?
It has been almost three years now. We grieve a loss that doesn’t go away. We hope to see him again one day. Our only assurance is resting in the promises of God, who answers us in our distresses. Who, when we have no answers, gives us peace and rest for our weary souls. From us and to us, our only message is the message of the gospel, that Jesus came into this world to save sinners. Sinners who sin the most grievous of sins, even those who have taken their own lives.
The sting of death is sin, and the strength of sin is the law. But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord” 1 Corinthians 15:55-58.
The Lord Jesus has taken away the sting of death through His resurrection. Believers know that for all who are in union with Jesus, their spirits will unite to Christ after death, and they anticipate the sure and certain hope of the resurrection, given by the resurrection of the Lord. The sting is gone! The last enemy is defeated! Death has no victory over the believer!
All of this is true—death has lost its sting, victory over death! Death no longer holds us captive. Death and the trials and sorrow surrounding it have stings that catch many families by surprise. We never know when we will be called out of this life. Middle-aged men die; children die; older people die. Unless Jesus returns, we will all die. There will be mourning. But trust me in this—if you are in Christ, the mourning will be only here on earth; you will one day be face-to-face with your precious Savior, Jesus Christ. This present suffering isn’t worthy of being compared to the eternal weight of glory.
Remember, grieving is a process; there’s no one-time solution to fix what you’re feeling. God allows pain and grieving for His good reasons, but this doesn’t mean He doesn’t care. There are lessons to be learned. Cry out to God; you will find hope, joy, and peace once again.
“My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever,” – Psalm 73:26
In those times, when you’re at your weakest, you may not have enough strength to fight the negative feelings. If you need the strength to let go and move on, there’s no better source of power than the Lord.
When someone you love passes away or if you’ve just ended the long-term relationship with someone you genuinely love, you will feel defeated. Life is that way sometimes, and believe or not; this is all part of God’s plan for you. Don’t believe that old aphorism that God will never give you more than you can handle. He does all the time. He will not, however, give you more than He can handle. He will be with you through every valley and every mountain peak.

My Generosity Journey

There are countless examples of generosity in the Bible, and frankly, the opposite. There is nothing sharper than the shock of learning what you’re not supposed to do the hard way. Those lessons we find are valuable and necessary to learn more about Jesus and ourselves. In the process of going over some of those, this story along with some other sentiments bubbled up needing to be told.

With that preface, this isn’t going to be a lovely and touching story about that time when someone was so generous to me that it changed my life forever. I do have those experiences in my adult life. My husband has shockingly lost his job twice in our 16 years together. He is the hardest worker I know, but the world is harsh, and things don’t always go our way. In both of those instances, we have had kind people who reached out and helped our family in ways that I will never forget. I truly saw the love of Jesus through those who helped and I am forever grateful. What I want to share is about my journey in generosity; the real and raw that comes from honest self-reflection.

A little background about me will help you understand my journey. My parents divorced when I was 3, and I am their only child. I lived with my mother for most of my childhood, where I experienced alcoholism and sexual abuse. It wasn’t all bad, I gained two amazing step-brothers who are now great parents and husbands. But, we were poor in more ways than one and struggled a lot growing up. When I look back, I can’t remember one person who stepped out in generosity towards me. I am sure that there were, but I couldn’t see past the pain and hurt in my situation. If their generosity didn’t make all the craziness end, it didn’t enter into my view. I didn’t realize this until much later in life, so I grew up thinking that there were no generous people in the world. In fact, if there were, I would never know them. I became hard to the world, on people, and on myself.

Living with a hard heart worked for me until I became a parent. Having kids changed my point of view. I didn’t want to have a hard heart, especially to my children. I wanted to be sweet and kind and tender. My children deserved to have a mom who was a break in the generational chain of dysfunction. I wanted them to be kind and generous people, but how can I teach them without doing it myself?

Let me tell you, I am wired to be selfish. In some ways, we all are, but with my beginnings and the anger I had about my childhood, I couldn’t be who I wanted to be. In my heart, I wanted to be generous, but I was afraid, not a little afraid, a lot afraid. It makes me vulnerable with my heart, my mind, my time, and my finances. With my previous experiences, I thought for sure I would be taken advantage of.

Where do I start with all of this?

Luke 6:38 NIV “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

Counseling! Because I had to get to the source of the issue. I won’t go into great detail about this since we are focusing on generosity, but know that this is often the place to start, and Peace Restored can help! I needed to reanalyze my relationship with Jesus, other people, and myself.

My counselor taught me generosity doesn’t have to come straight from me. Generosity comes from experiencing the generosity of Jesus. His forgiveness, grace, mercy, love, and understanding that provides me with what is necessary for me to be the kind of person I want to be and who my children deserve. If I relied on myself only, for a pool of generosity to draw from, I would come up empty every time. This is one of the many gifts that Jesus has given me! When you feel that unconditional pure love, your desire for others to feel it too becomes a reality. This is the core of generosity.

There are still times that I should have been more generous than I was. I am a work in progress. Being generous with your time and money takes trust. Trust that God is a part of our world and that your gift isn’t in vain. It takes learning to listen to the Holy Spirit and the gentle way he communicates with us. These both are learned habits just as generosity for some of us, is a learned habit.

This is sincere encouragement from myself to you. Examine what you do and where your finances go. Are they different from what you want it to be? Take the first step in changing that by reengaging with Jesus. Work on your relationship with Him and trust Him! Listen to the Holy Spirit’s gentleness in your life, in your head, and through others. There is a special place just for you, where your time and finances can make the biggest difference. And when you fall back from it, don’t beat yourself up, just restart the process. I love you big, and myself big, because Jesus loves us all BIG!


Being Thankful During Difficult Times

Written By: Robin Reid

One Thursday night while I was at a Bible Study in Indianapolis, we were taking prayer requests beforehand. My friend, Sandy, had just arrived after being at a hospital with her husband, Ron, for most of the week. Ron was a severe diabetic with heart disease and was often hospitalized.

Sandy was physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted, BUT, despite her trial and tribulations, she would smile and tell us, “I’m praising Him through my circumstances!” Her faith and trust in God helped her remain thankful during difficult times, even when Ron died a year later.

When we’re going through a tough time, it’s very easy and natural for us to dwell on the negative. If we’re honest with ourselves, we often have a pity party for one and tend to make those around us miserable, too. Our lives don’t have to be that way. However, it’s up to us to decide if we’re going to make a change or not.

Regardless if you believe in God or not, there is always something you can be thankful for, even when life throws you a curveball. Having an attitude of gratitude will help you manage and cope with whatever difficulty you’re facing. It’s not a magical formula that makes your problems disappear instantly. Instead, it’s a good habit you develop over time with practice.

Here are three ways to develop an attitude of gratitude:

  1. Find one thing you’re good at and do it. If you enjoy painting, whether it’s a wall or a sunset, get some bright colored paint and brighten up your living space. If your life feels out control and you’re a good organizer, you can either declutter a closet or a garage. Do people rave about your chocolate chip cookies? Well, then get baking and share your treats with a neighbor or friend. These ideas will help you turn your focus away from bad and towards something good.
  2. Start with anything. Whether it’s the fact that you’re alive, have a reliable car, in good health, have food on the table, or have the love of family and friends, these things will give you a reason to be thankful. Your dark day won’t look so gloomy after all.
  3. Help someone else. You’re not alone in the problem department. Everyone is struggling with something, whether you realize it or not. Consider going to the grocery store for a neighbor who can’t walk very far, baking a pie for a friend who was just discharged from the hospital, or volunteering at a local shelter. When we can encourage the people around us, we start to find ourselves feeling encouraged too. It’s a win-win for everybody.

Like I said before, being thankful doesn’t make our problems disappear all at once. There are some storms in our lives that may stay for a while. My friend, Sandy, wasn’t always smiling through her pain, but she had learned to develop that attitude of gratitude to help her cope and get through each day.

If a circumstance in your life, whether it’s past or present, has you feeling overwhelmed and unable to cope with it effectively, contact us at Peace Restored. We want to help you get your life back on track and have more reasons to be thankful. Go to to schedule an appointment or call us at (317) 361-5281.


Living in Community With Women – Part 3: One Another Principles

Written by: Ruth Meed

Now that we have discussed our foundation of loving one another, and what we should NOT do, how do we truly live in community with other women?

There are twenty ways the New Testament shares that we can work with each other as believers that show us how to support, provide hope, and encourage each other.


  1. Comfort one another.

This word means to call near, to come alongside.

This is practical hands-on, reaching out to be there for someone. To give someone words that let them know you are there supporting and encouraging them in their walk in the Lord.

Romans 1:12, That is, that I may be encouraged together with you while among you, each of us by the other’s faith, both yours and mine.

Other scriptures for reference; 1 Thessalonians 4:18 and 1 Thessalonians 5:11


  1. Edify one another

Along with comfort, we are to edify each other. This word has the idea of building up or building into others. This usually happens when we share the Word of God carefully in the hearts of those we want to encourage.  Sometimes a simple verse like, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13),  can help a person gain the strength to take the next step.

1 Thessalonians 5:11, Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing.

Other scripture for reference; Romans 14:19


  1. Members of one another

The picture here is that of parts of a physical body.  You would not leave your hand behind when you went somewhere. You would not intentionally cut off your foot. So we need to be mindful of not wounding each other or we cripple part of the body of Christ.

Romans 12:5, So we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.

Other scriptures for reference; Ephesians 4:25


  1. Care for one another

The word “care” here means to be intense about another. It’s the idea of being attached emotionally to someone to the point where when they hurt, you hurt. What bothers them bothers you.

1 Corinthians 12:25, so that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another.


  1. Be Kindly affectioned

This means cherishing, being fond of and friendly like we are family.

Romans 12:10, Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor


  1. Same mind

The “same mind” means one opinion or thinking the same things.  This carries the idea that we are not to think we are any better, more educated, more right, about things than others, but to be able to believe or agree on the foundations of our faith.

Romans 15:5, Now may the God who gives perseverance, and encouragement grant you to agree with one another according to Christ Jesus,

Other scripture for reference; Romans 12:16


  1. Receive one another

This means to offer a gesture of kindness to allow someone to be your friend.

Romans 15:7,  Therefore, accept one another, just as Christ also received us to the glory of God.


  1. Admonish

Here we are to keep in mind to gently urge or warn another sister in Christ of something we may see in their life as well as accept that from them.

Colossians 3:16, Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God.

Other scripture for reference; Romans 15:14b


  1. Salute, Greet, Kiss

The two words “salute and greet” mean the same thing in Greek: “to enfold in the arms.” We use modern terms of embrace or hug. When we think of kiss in this context, consider the middle eastern custom of kissing both cheeks as a demonstration of friendship and affection.

Romans 16:16, Greet one another with a holy kiss. All the churches of Christ greet you.

Other scriptures for reference; 1 Corinthians 16:20, 2 Corinthians 13:12, and 1 Peter 5:14


  1. Tarry for

This means to look out for, to wait expectantly for, to anticipate the needs of someone else.

1 Corinthians 11:33, So then, my brethren, when you come together to eat, wait for one another.


  1. Serve one another

To serve means to be a slave. But we need to pay attention to the context in this case because this is not being a slave of just anyone. This phrase excludes serving people who are mean spirited and troubled, but fellow believers who are sharing and needing help are to be served in this way.

Galatians 5:13, For you were called to freedom, brethren; only do not turn your freedom into an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.


  1. Bear burdens

Bearing means to lift, to carry, to take up. We are to take responsibility for the difficulties others are experiencing.

Galatians 6:2, Bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ.


  1. Forbear

Forbearing is to endure, to put up with, or suffer from another.

Colossians 3:13, Bear one another burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ.

Other scriptures for reference; Ephesians 4:2


  1. Forgive

To forgive is to grant as a favor or pardon. We are giving someone what they don’t deserve when they harm us in some fashion.

Ephesians 4:32, Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.

Other scriptures for reference; Colossians 3:13


  1. Submit

This means to arrange yourself in an orderly way under another for unity. If another woman is leading, let them lead and carry yourself under that leadership.

Ephesians 5:21, and be subject to one another in fear of Christ.

Other scriptures for reference; 1 Peter 5:5


  1. Esteem

To esteem is to consider, to count as, and to place in a leadership role in your mind.

Philippians 2:3, Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;


  1. Consider and provoke

Consider means to observe fully. In other words, to make it a point to get to know other people. Provoke means to incite or encourage.

Hebrews 10:24, and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds.


  1. Confess faults to and pray for

Confess means to acknowledge by agreeing. To pray means to express our wishes to God- in this case on behalf of another.

James 5:16, Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed. The effective prayer of a righteous man can accomplish much.


  1. Hospitable

To be friendly or fond of having guests.

1 Peter 4:9, Be hospitable to one another without complaint.


  1. Fellowship

This word means a partnership, beneficial communion. When we are submitting to the Holy Spirits work in our lives which enable us to practice all the preceding “one anothers,” then having a deep, fruitful, intimate relationship with each other becomes a natural part of our lives.

1 John 1:7, but if we walk in the Light as He is in the Light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin.

In these articles, we have focused on the idea of what it means to be there for “one another” according to what the Bible teaches.  As you read you learned many valuable lessons of things, God’s Word teaches that we should not do, but also things we are told to do to maintain healthy relationships with each other and to grow in knowing who Christ is and how He lived. This naturally creates community as we allow the Bible to teach us how to care for and live unselfishly for the sake of others. We reach out to “one another” in these ways so that we can accomplish the goal of developing a community that will be for our excellence and God’s glory.

Living in Community With Women – Part 2: Do Not

Written by: Ruth Meed

In our previous article, we discussed the foundation for authentic community, loving one another and why we ought to love one another. To apply this practically, we need to understand what we should NOT do to “one another” as well.

  1. Do Not Judge

Romans 14:13, Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather determine this—not to put an obstacle or a stumbling block in a brother’s way.

James 4:11 Do not speak against one another, brethren. He who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks against the law and judges the law; but if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge of it.

The word “judge” in these verses means to distinguish as different or condemn. While we must use righteous judgment in our interactions, we are not to be condemning of others. That is God’s job.

  1. Grudge not

James 5:9, Do not complain, brethren, against one another, so that you yourselves may not be judged; behold, the Judge is standing right at the door.

This means to stand against or confine. The idea of being held at gunpoint comes to mind here. It is constraining someone in an unfair or unrighteous way.

  1. Lie not

Colossians 3:9, Do not lie to one another, since you laid aside the old self with its evil practices

1 Thessalonians 5:15  See that no one repays another with evil for evil, but always seek after that which is suitable for one another and all people.

This is a simple principle: don’t ever tell a lie for any reason to a sister in Christ.

  1. Don’t defraud

1 Thessalonians 4:6, and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you.

1 Corinthians 7:5 Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Defraud means to be jealous, take advantage of or take something wrongfully.

  1. Don’t bite and devour or consume

Galatians 5:15,  But if you bite and devour one another, take care that you are not consumed by one another.

This means, “biting down, using up or destroying.” Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt your soul was eaten away by the nasty things that were said to you or about you? That’s what this verse is referring to. We are not to be the one who does this to someone else.

  1.   Don’t provoke or envy.

Galatians 5:26, Let us not become boastful, challenging one another, envying one another.

When we think about not provoking others, we are thinking about not saying things or doing things that we know will entice them to frustration. The goal is to not intentionally think of ways or say things to make others angry or feel inferior or belittled.

Living in Community With Women – Part 1: Love One Another

Written by: Ruth Meed

A friend of mine inspired me to think about the topic of living in community with other women. What makes community vital? How does your church encourage its members to reach out and fellowship with others outside of their small friend-group? How do we do this effectively so that Gods glory takes precedent, and believers become built up and encouraged?

Before we begin discussing the answers to these questions, we have to make a few keynotes. While this is beneficial for us, living in community with women glorifies God. It glorifies God by reflecting His character, and as we are in community with women, we see characteristics of God. Another note we have to make, we need to develop an understanding that we should love one another as well as the reasons for doing so. In parts two and three of this article, we will discuss how we love one another. For now, let’s look at why we should love one another. 1 Corinthians 13:2, And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.

A) It’s a commandment

John 13:34-35, A new commandment I give to you that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this, all men will know that you are My disciples if you have a love for one another.

B) It’s something we owe each other

Romans 13:8, Owe nothing to anyone except to love one another; for he who loves his neighbor has fulfilled the law.

C) It’s what we are taught by God to do

1 Thessalonians 4:9, Now as to the love of the brethren, you do not need for anyone to write to you, for you yourselves are taught by God to love one another

D) It grows as we nurture it

1 Thessalonians 3:12, and may the Lord cause you to increase and abound in love for one another, and for all people, just as we also do for you

E) It’s developed and purified as we obey God by intentionally, genuinely loving each other.

1 Peter 1:22 who is at the right hand of God, having gone into heaven, after angels and authorities and powers had been subjected to Him.

How to Find Peace Every Day

10 Ways to Experience Peace Every Day

Written By: Robin Reid

You may read this headline and say to yourself something like, “My day is full, from sun up to sun down. I don’t have time for peace,” or “I’m managing my stress just fine.”  All of us have busy days and as women especially, we often take better care of others than we do ourselves. Right?

Sooner or later, the stress of daily living catches up with us and impacts our physical, mental and spiritual health. Whether it’s significant fatigue, weight gain, insomnia, depression, irritability, inability to concentrate, or worse, such as heart disease or high blood pressure, we may find ourselves no longer able to help the family and friends we love.

Now is the time to take care of you.

Here are 10 ways you can experience peace every day:

  1. Slow down – We weren’t created to be “Wonder Woman”. It’s okay if you can’t get everything on your “To-Do List” done in one day. Life won’t fall apart. Slowing down decreases stress and you’ll feel less anxious. Be good to your body and your mind.
  2. Unclutter your home/office and your mind – Throw away anything that’s no longer needed, organize your desk or a kitchen cabinet, or clean your closet by donating old clothes to a local charity. When your “space” is organized and simplified, you gain clarity of mind and a sense of order.
  3. Set boundaries – This applies to both people and activities. It’s okay to tell people that you’re available to talk or meet only during a specific period of time. If you’re on social media or binge-watch television, set a limit on your activity. You’ll experience not only peace but also freedom when you set boundaries.
  4. Accept and let go – If there’s something in your past causing stress, don’t be afraid to confront it. Ask for help. Avoiding or suppressing the issue will only make you feel worse. Refuse to let a negative experience control your present and your future.
  5. Communicate – If you’re struggling to find peace in your life, have the courage and talk with someone who will encourage and support you.
  6. Breathe – You can quickly alleviate a stressful situation by concentrating on and slowing down your breathing. Step away for two or three minutes and take deep breaths, slowly inhaling and exhaling.
  7. Pray – God doesn’t want His children to live in a constant state of stress. Instead, He invites you to talk with Him every day about your struggles. He cares about every area of your life, regardless if it’s small or big. The Bible says God is bigger than your troubles. Reach out to Him in prayer and let His peace give you comfort.
  8. Disconnect on Saturdays and Sundays – If at all possible, make your weekend time for enjoying family and friends. Plan fun activities to alleviate your stress and disconnect from television, social media, and your work phone.
  9. Be thankful – The truth is there will always be people whose lives are much harder than yours. When you’re feeling stressed, start thinking about all the good things in your life and be thankful.
  10. Plan some “me” time – Think about your favorite thing to do and make time to do it. Self-care is not being selfish. Whether it’s having a manicure or pedicure, going to your favorite coffee shop, taking a walk in the park, riding your bicycle, or going to the movies, schedule time each week to take care of yourself.

At Peace Restored, we care about you and your overall health. We offer donation-based services, such as counseling, for women who are struggling or have struggled, with issues such as anger, rejection, abuse, divorce, stress, and much more. For more information, go to or call us at (317) 361-5281.

It’s Okay to Ask for Help

Asking for Help is a Sign of Strength, Not Weakness

Written by: Robin Reid

It’s ironic that when we were babies, we needed our parents to take care of us by providing for our physical and emotional needs and towards the end of our lives, some of us will find ourselves having our needs met by either our kids or others who are close by.

However, when did we lose our ability to ask for help during those in-between years? It’s a good thing to be independent in the sense that we can cook a meal, pay a bill, drive a car, clean a house, and more, but what happens when a life event, such as the death of a loved one, ‘rocks our world’ and we find ourselves struggling alone?

Regardless of how society or the media glamorizes the notion of always “having it all together” or looks down upon people needing help, it’s detrimental to our entire well being if we don’t reach out to someone for support when it’s necessary.

Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

When life has you stressed out, you not only feel it in your mind but also throughout your body. You have a headache that won’t go away, you’re always tired due to lack of sleep, your heart is racing, etc. Does any of this sound familiar?

Think about this, whatever you’re experiencing, whether it’s anxiety, fear, or depression, it’s affecting the people around you. Perhaps someone has said to you, “Are you feeling all right? You’ve been pretty irritable lately. Is there anything I can do to help?”

Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Whether you believe in God or not, you were created with purpose and to live a meaningful life connected to other people. In your good times and especially the bad, you are not alone. When you don’t ask for help, you are depriving someone the opportunity to bless you and vice versa. Why?

  • It’s human nature for people to want to help each other. Many of us have compassion and empathy in our DNA and look for opportunities to serve someone in need.
  • People are always better and stronger when they do life together. Many problems are better solved in a group than independently.
  • We must remove society’s stigma that asking for help is a weakness. Too often, people who are wounded will turn around and wound others. Regardless if it’s intentional or not, we need to show people that it’s okay to ask for help and that we’re here to support them.

If you find yourself now or later on in a situation where life has become too much of a chore for you to handle, please reach out to us at Peace Restored. We are a Christ-centered organization with a heart for helping hurting women find hope, healing, and restoration. You can go to our website,, for more information or to schedule a FREE, confidential appointment. You can also call us at (317) 361-5281.